Comments on: Jealousy and Polyamory http://polyliving.net/2013/04/jealousy-and-polyamory/ A Place To Learn About Living in a Polyamory World! Tue, 19 May 2015 16:03:28 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.2.38 By: Lenny http://polyliving.net/2013/04/jealousy-and-polyamory/#comment-2951 Tue, 12 May 2015 16:57:15 +0000 http://polyliving.net/?p=263#comment-2951 You do not have to accept being number two. You will never be the first in his life and it sounds that you settled for Poly because you may have been afraid that you could not find anyone else to love you. I believe that if poly does not feel right for you, you should not do it. Your emotions are not going to change. Only a very tiny percentage of relationships are poly and there is good reason for it. They seldom work out.

My wife and I had a secondary woman. Our marriage always came first and she had no say in anything. We loved her and she even lived with us for many years but she was always number 2 in our lives and had no ownership in our home and we did not financially support her.

Like you she got tired of that and got married but still kept her relationship with us. This way she had her own primary relationship that she could retreat too. We lasted 40 years like that.

Find a man who feels that you are enough for him. Why are you in a relationship where you are not “enough” for your partner but rather a play thing. That is what you are. You are his girl on the side and the only difference between that and an affair is that his wife/partner knows about it.

]]> By: Admin http://polyliving.net/2013/04/jealousy-and-polyamory/#comment-2885 Fri, 01 May 2015 16:06:34 +0000 http://polyliving.net/?p=263#comment-2885 Time and communication help. Communicate your feelings about being second to your partner. Allow him time to reassure you. Hopefully as the relationship develops and matures, you will feel less second and more important.

]]> By: Cindy http://polyliving.net/2013/04/jealousy-and-polyamory/#comment-2391 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 17:42:50 +0000 http://polyliving.net/?p=263#comment-2391 I just started seeing someone that is in a poly lifestyle. I am coming out of a 20 year marriage that was not the best. we both cheated. I really like this new man in my life I like the idea of being with him when we can and also have the option of other men in my life if I chose. My issue is I don’t want to be second and not feel good enough. that is how I feel now that I am just not good enough to keep his full attention but I want him. How do I change my mindset?

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