By: Bisexe Fille LéGèRe

Bisexe Fille LéGèRe — Tue, 03 Jun 2014 10:50:54 +0000

J’ai comme l’impression que ce poste va atterrir sur un blog personnel

By: Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio

Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio — Sun, 22 Sep 2013 17:24:43 +0000

Hi all! I think this is soooo much to the point. Having navigated the scene of polyamory as a solo player for years, I can say what this articles presents is really true! My situation is defined by geography: If I live further away from a partner than other partners do, I feel it’s better for the relationship to be “secondary” so there is more balance for all involved. Last year I was on a special gig, and only three hours drive from those who had been emotionally and sexually close to me for years (as opposed to 3-4 hour flight away). Well . . . i hardly ever heard form them! They didn’t look me up in my new location, let alone offer to help me in the out-of-comfort-zone situation I was in. Eventually, they changed their relationships and one even got married without even telling me. I learned from Facebook! At some point, I got ill (I almost died from kidney failure). You would think that poly people would show up to help me. But no! Not even a phone call! How is it that I’m here to tell the tale? Well . . . people in my neighborhood took care of me. They were new friends and were not even Poly at all! I was “secondary” therefore “expendable”: So much for equality in the Poly world. There were many instances when I “fixed” primary relationships that didn’t work very well, and I functioned as a “buffer,” as the article explains. I believe my case is representative of many others. A good wake up call for more justice and fairness in the Poly world! With much love to all and namaste

By: dandelion

dandelion — Sun, 22 Sep 2013 03:35:42 +0000

I think you left out the lack of opportunity scenario. Like say, in Kentucky.

Comments on: Solo Polyamorist and Secondary Relationships

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