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Title: Non Bio connections
Post by: Natja on November 21, 2012, 08:11:29 AM
What are some of the tactics pregnant women can use to share the pregnancy experience with non biological family?
What are some of the names/titles used and is there anything that can be done to make it a more integrated experience?

Natja
Title: Re: Non Bio connections
Post by: Administrator on November 24, 2012, 08:30:45 PM
You can use almost any tactic for bonding with a baby that you would use for a bio dad with any non-bio parent. 

-Let the non-bio parents help feed the baby even if you breastfeed you could pump it and allow them at least once a day to feed the baby the breast milk via a bottle or they could feed the baby when ready baby cereal or juice or water via a bottle.
-Holding
-Playing
-Cuddling
-Playing
-Bathing
-Singing
-Reading stories

As far as names/titles, there are also a variety of ways for the non-bio child to refer to their non-bio parents.
You could choose:
-the other parent terms that their bio parents are not using, like mom, mommy, mother, mama, mamacita, dad, daddy, father,  or papa
-have them call the non-bio parents Uncle or Aunt, Mr., Ms., Mrs. then the first name. For example, Mr. Mike.
-have the child choose a name/title to call them (this is what we did)[/li][/list]

Any other ideas?
Title: Re: Non Bio connections
Post by: TamBabs on November 30, 2012, 06:52:51 PM
During pregnancy a mother can:

Ask for a list of names... no promises... but its nice to consider them.

Share ultrasounds, have someone video/audio record an ultrasound, so the baby's heartbeat can be heard by everyone.

Let the Non-bio family know what the doctor says and when appointments are set for. Keep them informed.

When baby starts kicking... allow others to feel. (Not everyone is comfortable with this. While Mom might not even think about... Non-bio might be dying for the opportunity).

There are apps & programmes that follow a baby's progress in utero (I've seen this alot on Facebook! lol).

Choose a colour / theme for baby... so if they wish to make or buy something for the nursery, they can.

If someone sews... ask for quilt blocks. Either you can ask family to sign their names to a block, or actually make a block within a colour scheme. Sometimes, just sending their signature via the internet, it can be turned into a quilt block.

Have everyone give the baby some advice, or a fave saying or something and scrapbook it, along with their photo. Even goofy photos can make a fun baby book!

Have a plan for hospital. This may mean calling the Non-bio family on the way to the hospital... or waiting until after the baby is born, but ask what they'd prefer. Babies often do things unexpectedly, so make sure they know you will do your best to respect their wishes, but it may not be possible.

Title: Re: Non Bio connections
Post by: Administrator on January 21, 2013, 08:42:51 PM
Nice input so far.  Any others?