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Brutal Realities => The Brutal Truths => Topic started by: Admin on March 17, 2013, 06:19:02 PM

Title: On Being Poly
Post by: Admin on March 17, 2013, 06:19:02 PM
Being poly is not easy. 

I know...I've been poly 15 years.  I love my spice.  In that time we have had many ups and downs.  Sadly, for us, many of our issues would not have occurred if people didn't try to control our lives.  We had so much added stress from people trying to take our kids, separate us, jail us and more,  that smaller issues...issues we should have worked through easily weren't so easy.

We were new.  We had no no conception of what being poly was.  Jealousy, fear and confusion were part of our lives.  So we learned...the hard way...trial and error.  We're still learning. 

It's funny.  After 15 years you would think we would know what we needed but that's not true.  As we learned, we changed.  With each joy, each hardship we learned...and changed. 

I am not the same person I was 15 years ago.  Hell, I'm not the same person I was last year.  I don't say that flippantly.  So much has happened that I can not help but change my views, perspectives and beliefs.  Am I better?  Worse? 

I am me.  That's who I know now.  Me in the here and now. 

I am me...polyamorous and prepared to face my future.

Title: Re: On Being Poly
Post by: Deorccwen on March 18, 2013, 06:18:38 AM
Title: Re: On Being Poly
Post by: Natja on March 18, 2013, 04:31:49 PM
I hear you, funnily enough I said something similar very recently, you grow, you change, you learn and this learning is constant, even when you think you know what you want and you have it all sorted, the great big Pride monster turns up and shows you that you don't really know anything at all and then you have to step back and reassess. 

The only thing we can aim for is to be more authentic and better people from our experiences rather than repeating old destructive cycles of behaviour.

Title: Re: On Being Poly
Post by: Administrator on April 03, 2013, 07:49:56 PM
Poly is definitely one of those types of relationships that changes and challenges you.