Over 12 years ago, I wrote about the poly mindset, but that original posting about the poly mindset was limited to polygamy and polygyny because my prior experience and knowledge were indeed limited to these two forms at that time.
Nonetheless, a poly mindset is necessary for anyone who lives any form of poly. Without a poly mindset, many issues will arise within our poly relationships due to a monogamous mindset. When a person in a poly relationship maintains a mono mindset, many emotional and other issues arise and may even cause the downfall or degeneration of all or some of the relationships. When a person holds a mono mindset within a poly relationship, this person thinks and cares only about their own individual relationship with their partner. Many times, this mono mindset works to benefit one's self at the expense of others within the relationship or also in a relationship with one's partner. Some would call this mono mindset selfish, but I like to think of it as a habit. Many times, a person with a mono mindset tries to guilt manipulate their partner to only focus on them rather than their other partners.
When we practice a poly mindset, we constantly remember that our metamours have other metamours, who they also love, outside of us. We do not try to force our metamours to only and fully focus on us. We free them to love others. When we practice a poly mindset, we think and care about our metamour and all of their metamours, and we do work to only benefit ourselves. Because we love our metamours, we care about all of their relationships. We want them to be happy, so we do not work against them in their other relationships.
Any thoughts, questions, ideas, or input about this subject?