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Offline TamBabs

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would like a fakes, flakes and frauds section
« on: April 18, 2012, 07:39:42 AM »
There are so many scammers out there, that it would be a good idea to have a section so others can learn how to spot them.

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Re: would like a fakes, flakes and frauds section
« Reply #1 on: April 18, 2012, 08:18:28 PM »
Good idea! 

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Re: would like a fakes, flakes and frauds section
« Reply #2 on: April 19, 2012, 01:36:04 PM »
Awesome suggestion, Tam! There are, sadly, many posers out there, and even sadder, many desparate singles and families out there who take the bait. Hopefully this forum will educate and enlighten.

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Re: would like a fakes, flakes and frauds section
« Reply #3 on: April 25, 2012, 04:45:32 AM »
A couple of years ago, Natja wrote a blog post on how to spot internet frauds.  Hope it is helpful to someone out there.

 http://apolyglot.blogspot.co.uk/2010/03/internet-and-rise-of-fantasy-romance.html
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Re: would like a fakes, flakes and frauds section
« Reply #4 on: April 27, 2012, 11:39:17 AM »
There's also this:

The following comes directly from this website: http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Munchausen ... ptoms.aspx

A relatively new condition has been labelled Munchausen's by internet. This is where a person joins an internet support group for people with a serious health condition, such as cystic fibrosis or leukaemia, and then claims to have the illness themselves.

While these actions may only be confined to the internet, they can have an incredibly destructive effect on support groups and online communities. People with genuine health conditions have reported feelings of betrayal and anger upon discovering that they have been lied to.

One expert on Munchausen’s by internet has compiled a list of warning signs that indicate that someone may be affected by the condition:

•Their posts and messages seem to contain large chunks of information that appear to have been directly copied from health websites, such as NHS Choices.
•They report experiencing symptoms that appear to be much more severe than most people would experience, such as having a constant blinding headache in a support group for people with migraines.
•They claim to have near-fatal bouts of illness followed by a miraculous recovery.
•They make fantastic claims which they later contradict or which others disprove at a later date. For example, they may claim to be attending a certain hospital that does not actually exist.
•They claim to have continual dramatic events in their life, such as loved ones dying or being the victim of a violent crime, particularly when other group members have become a focus of attention.
•They feign an attitude of unconcern when they talk about serious problems, probably to attract attention and sympathy.
•Other ‘people’ claim to post on their behalf, such as a parent or partner, but they use exactly the same pattern of writing.

These people are not always in supportive groups... but can be found anywhere. Be aware.

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Re: would like a fakes, flakes and frauds section
« Reply #5 on: April 28, 2012, 06:02:59 AM »
I have said it before and I will say it again, if a person writes to you and their lives seem more dramatic than a soap opera, it is usually embellished!
Yes, you can have a run of bad luck, but it is incredibly rare for a person to have been a victim of crime, serious chronic illness, family members dying, children in hospital, adult family members in jail, lost your job and your home being repossessed ALL at the same time......


If it sounds like the plot of Eastenders/Sunset Beach....it probably is.

Besides, if all that stuff was happening to you, would you have several hours a day to talk on websites? 

If it looks like a duck......

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