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What is Jealousy?
« on: April 22, 2012, 06:15:57 PM »
Before I comment on this, I would like to get everyone's thoughts on what they think jealousy is.

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Re: What is Jealousy?
« Reply #1 on: April 29, 2012, 06:11:33 PM »
From my experience with feeling jealous in the past, jealousy is an intense emotion based upon negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, anxiety, and fear about a potential or anticipated loss of someone or something one values. 
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Re: What is Jealousy?
« Reply #2 on: September 09, 2012, 02:29:19 PM »
Stead,

I like how you defined jealousy.  When I first read the question "What do I think jealousy is?", I was at a loss.  I know I have felt jealous throughout my life, at different times, but I never really thought about what that meant.  I never recognized a reason for being jealous, I just felt those intense negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, anxiety, and fear about a potential or anticipated loss of someone or something I valued, as you so aptly defined it!  Now with your definition, I can see and understand better those situations in which I felt jealousy.  Amazing how such few words can open one's eyes (and heart), bring about an understanding that was not there before.

I wish I could have commented before you posted your definition, but as I said, I was at a loss.  I had no idea how to define jealousy without going to a dictionary and giving you that definiton.  I do admit, I have a jealous bone...I am human.

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Re: What is Jealousy?
« Reply #3 on: November 03, 2012, 10:46:03 PM »
Thanks Bud.

Jealous always deals with a fear of loss. 

I find it interesting that even poly people, who want to be poly and love it, can and do feel jealousy.  I know I've often felt it very intensely.  It may not have been because I feared losing Antony or Jadez totally, but when another partner came along, things changed dramatically, so I lost what I once had with them.  I often felt myself mourning what I once had and fearing I would either never get it back or what came in its place would not be as valuable to me.

Blessings,

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